Coming out of hiding

Coming out of hiding

What do you hide from? And how much longer can you hide?  The things we hide from are often our greatest gifts and teachers. Many people spend their lives shrinking, avoiding certain people, certain situations, in order to stay comfortable. But at what cost? Hiding from the things that make us uncomfortable forces us into living more shallow and superficial lives. It puts us into places where our life force is being squashed and our true depth of feelings doesn’t get to see the light of day. It also guarantees a life of focusing on the external, looking for the outside to provide nourishment, sustenance, when what will truly feed us is on the inside. We are now living in times where truths are being pushed to the surface everyday. I see my own life and the lives of others around me changing day by day – people being asked to look at health concerns, long unresolved family issues, relationships that have been out of balance. There are a number of prominent astrological configurations and the collective waking of unconsciousness behind this revealing of truths. As more and more of us wake up, as the current astrological configurations keep nudging us, it’s harder to hide. The things which you have kept hidden will come to the surface somewhere in your life. Do you want to keep wasting your life force hiding from unresolved issues? When we take the step to have the difficult conversation the amount of energy and freedom that becomes available is incredible. I have had many difficult conversations over the last few years, and each time...
Disease to please

Disease to please

I heard a new term the other day – “disease to please” – and I smiled. I know I have suffered from this a lot over the years and for the most part I have a strong and available NO in my vocabulary nowadays. But every now and then the “disease to please” takes over and I find myself saying YES whilst my body contracts and the NO attempts to scream its way through my body with all my muscles further tightening to hold it down. Why do I do this? From when I was young, I learnt that in order to stay safe, to win the love and approval of significant people in my life, there were certain things I could do. This includes being “nice”, agreeing with others, going along with others’ behaviours without question, and generally over-riding any sense of my own internal voice when it clashed with the desires of the people I loved. Because I was young, safety and love from others were of key importance to me. So these were techniques that I believed necessary in order to survive life in this world.  As a grown woman, however, I know and have come to embody love and safety from within my body. I know that sometimes I am abrupt and thoughtless, I sometimes upset people, I sometimes do things that people disagree with – and I am still okay. Because I accept my behaviours and I still keep on loving myself. I provide safety and take care of my needs – because I am important to me. The voids inside left over from...