Don’t let your inner child sit in the driving seat

Don’t let your inner child sit in the driving seat

Sharing with a client this morning on Skype… and a beautiful reminder for me also in these times of intense energies and big times of transition. The child inside of us is a beautiful gift to be treasured; he/she is precious and brings innocence, delightfulness, wonder and many gifts. However, it’s not for the child to be in the driver’s seat of our lives – the child in the driver’s seat will make choices that aren’t always appropriate for a grown person. The child may attempt to get their needs met in ways that are not healthy, as they are attempting to correct missing needs from their past, often attempting to receive validation via inappropriate forms as a substitute for mummy/daddy love. So… It’s up to us as adults to create a healthy dialogue with our inner child, to offer them the love and attention they needed, to truly listen, to take time and space. And then we can make our life choices from the healthy adult. It was a really beautiful Skype session this morning with a new international client. Loving the mentoring sessions I am doing! So much pleasure in sharing my...
I feel burning

I feel burning

There are some intense feelings of pain, abandonment, neglect and trauma that live in my body. It’s from long ago and yet there are moments when it is activated and I feel as though it’s real now. I feel hurt, I feel burning, I feel stinging and I feel very uncomfortable. And it often comes at inopportune moments – moments where I want to be more responsible and more open to my beloved. And yet, in those moments, the pain takes over and no matter what, I feel as though I am about to be abandoned all over again. So the reaction and the protection comes to take over – to “save” me from feeling the pain all over again. My mind wants to tell me it’s too hard to be in intimate relationship and deal with these parts of myself. And yet, they don’t come to the surface when I am not in relationship. When I breathe into my heart, I know this is the next layer, this is the layer that I have been hiding, despite years and years of working on myself this is the “stuff” I have not been ready to see and feel until now. And somehow, I need to walk the path gracefully. To hold my own hand whilst also holding my beloved’s hand. To know that parts of me finally feel safe to come to the surface, so maybe it’s my time! Just maybe I can be in relationship and be open and loving and allow this volcano that burns inside of me to have its way with me, but not to...
Coming out of hiding

Coming out of hiding

What do you hide from? And how much longer can you hide?  The things we hide from are often our greatest gifts and teachers. Many people spend their lives shrinking, avoiding certain people, certain situations, in order to stay comfortable. But at what cost? Hiding from the things that make us uncomfortable forces us into living more shallow and superficial lives. It puts us into places where our life force is being squashed and our true depth of feelings doesn’t get to see the light of day. It also guarantees a life of focusing on the external, looking for the outside to provide nourishment, sustenance, when what will truly feed us is on the inside. We are now living in times where truths are being pushed to the surface everyday. I see my own life and the lives of others around me changing day by day – people being asked to look at health concerns, long unresolved family issues, relationships that have been out of balance. There are a number of prominent astrological configurations and the collective waking of unconsciousness behind this revealing of truths. As more and more of us wake up, as the current astrological configurations keep nudging us, it’s harder to hide. The things which you have kept hidden will come to the surface somewhere in your life. Do you want to keep wasting your life force hiding from unresolved issues? When we take the step to have the difficult conversation the amount of energy and freedom that becomes available is incredible. I have had many difficult conversations over the last few years, and each time...